If you’ve tried them, you’ve probably learned, the hard way, that ultimatums aren’t a good plan for turning a troubled marriage around.. There are many things that will have a much greater impact and a more positive connotation for the future of your marriage.

How to Get Your Ex Back?

Here are just a few things you can use to save your marriage that will work much better than issuing ultimatums.

Set the Example

Mahatma Ghandi is credited for saying ‘We must become the change we want to see.’ This is a true statement in relationships as it is in life. If you want to see positive changes in your relationship, throwing down gauntlets and tossing around ultimatums isn’t going to make them happen.

What will work is for you to let your spouse see the changes taking place in your life and how you treat the people around you. This, above all else, will force him or her to take a long hard look inside and see changes he or she can make too.

If you want to change the tone of your relationship and build closer ties together then you be the one to make the first steps. Invite the change but lead by example.

Tell Your Spouse What You Need

Have you tried this tactic yet? There are some things you want in relationships. That’s all well and good. But there are other things that you NEED from your spouse.

The longer you go without these things you need the more resentment is going to come between the two of you. The sad thing is that you’re angry with him, and growing angrier by the day, for something he doesn’t even know he’s doing wrong (or, as the case may be NOT doing right).

It isn’t fair to either of you or the relationship. Giving him an ultimatum to shape up or ship out isn’t going to change the fact that he still doesn’t know what you need from him unless you tell him. Telling him in a calm and rational manner will also greatly improve the likelihood that he’ll take what you are asking for seriously and be much more inclined to give it to you.

Make a Clean Break of Things

Sometimes you really must be willing to walk away from the marriage and the relationship in order to get the changes you need. If you’re not happy with the way the relationship is going it must be changed.

Sometimes it’s a bit of a lull or bump in the road. But, if you’ve reached a point of prolonged discontent then it’s time to reevaluate and reinvest yourself in the relationship or make the painful decision to walk away.

These are small steps that can make a HUGE difference for the future of your relationship. Whether you’re trying to save your marriage or looking for ways to get your ex back these can help. But, they’ll only help after you’ve applied a few other principles to open the lines of communication between the two of you. Follow this link -> http://magicofmakingup.com/ to learn more.

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