Most men in your shoes have a hard time figuring out exactly what’s going on in the aftermath of a breakup. All you really know is that you are hurt and confused.. Many men in your situation feel kind of blind-sided by the breakup. They weren’t even really sure anything at all was wrong in the relationship.

The fact that it’s so common is a sign of two problems that both revolved around Mars and Venus being on different pages. While there are some things about the Mars and Venus philosophy that I disagree with there is one important truth that remains. Communication is vitally important in relationships.

It’s not about what she said and what he heard. That works with men talking to men and women talking to women. It isn’t a new language that needs to be learned in order to not only iron outGet Your Ex Back differences but also realize the differences exist in the first place. It’s not about finding the right words. It’s about using the words at your disposal.

The easy chair is one of the most hated items in the world for most women who have been or are in a committed relationship or marriage. This is the throne of indifference as far as they’re concerned. She feels that she doesn’t exist to you when you’re sitting in that chair. The thing is, if there is a sports match, video game, or engrossing Discovery Channel program on the mating habits of ants in Cambodia, she probably DOESN’T exist for you while you’re in that chair.

She’ll try to tell you something and while your mind might acknowledge that she’s talking, it sounds a lot like the teacher in the Charlie Brown cartoons. Hours later you think to ask her what she said but by then she’s been stewing and steaming (ready to boil over) and it becomes a fight that you pretty much tune out after she starts in on you and that ‘stupid chair.’

Does that sound about right?

The thing is, it’s not ENTIRELY your fault. Past history has probably taught you that she’s only going to be telling you something you don’t want to hear like ‘why don’t you paint the garage, change the oil, and pick up your smelly socks from the bedroom floor?’ Nag, nag, nag, nag. You’re not interested in allowing her nagging to take over your limited down time.

The problem is that this leaves her even more frustrated until the frustration boils over, her suitcase is packed, and you’re scratching your head wondering why she hadn’t said something sooner.

She’s frustrated. She feels unappreciated. And you? You’re clueless by and large. You didn’t even know she was unhappy because she didn’t bother to tell you that. She expected you to know.

That’s where the real problem lies. Women do it all the time. They want you to feel a certain way, act in a specific manner, or even to give them a specific thing that will make them feel wanted. The problem is that they never TELL you what it is they need or want from you and then get angry when you don’t deliver

It’s frustrating from both points of view. But, men compartmentalize much better than women most of the time. So, he shoves it aside while she just adds another mark in the unhappy column.

So, what can you do now that things seem so confusing and hopeless? How do you end the pain, get her back, and keep her happy this time around? Sounds like a tall order doesn’t it?

The beauty if that you CAN do all that and so much more if you have the right system or guide in place to help you out.

Watch this free video and you’ll have all you need to know concerning how to get your ex back. All that will remain is for you to put the step by step instructions the video teaches to work for you.

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