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There’s something about the word ‘divorce’ that makes it seem so final.. It sounds like a line in the sand that can’t be crossed without disastrous results. But, in all honesty, it’s just a word. It’s a word that has the power or potential to be devastating to lives and families but it’s still just a word. It’s meaning only matters to the degree that we allow it to matter in our lives. If you want to get your ex back, one little word like ‘divorce’ shouldn’t stop you in your tracks.

In some marriages, divorce may really be the end. Both people are really willing to walk away and sacrifice the years, blood, sweat, and tears they spent trying to build their families. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people or that you’re better than them or worse. It just is a difference you need to understand.

Most people who go through a divorce stick it out. There are a few exceptions though and you can be one of those exceptions if you’re willing to do whatever it takes to save your marriage – even though you’ve already been divorced.

The good news for you, if there is anything that can remotely be considered good news, is that you already know the way to the heart of your ex. You’ve won that heart before. Now you just have to unlock the secret for keeping the owner of that heart happy with the relationship.

But before you go and load up on the corny jokes, one-liners, and romantic gestures that won the heart of your ex the first time around there are a few quick things you need to settle at home first.

1) Find out what was missing or went wrong in the relationship. Dig deep if you must but you need to know the real reason behind your spouse’s unhappiness with the marriage. Solve the problem BEFORE you take one step in the direction of trying to get your ex back.

2) Discover what it will take to make your spouse happy this time around. Was something missing in the marriage? Was there just not enough of something you offered? What was it that your ex wasn’t getting enough of to be happy? Make a commitment to yourself to give your ex whatever it was he or she wasn’t getting before.

3) Learn to ask for help and whatever it will take to keep you happy in the relationship too. Everyone has needs and no one in the relationship is a mind reader. You both need to talk to one another about what your needs are. Otherwise they aren’t going to get met.

Divorce is never the absolute ending of a relationship. You both have to decide to walk away and let it die for it to truly end. If you’re not ready, there are plans you can follow that will help you save your marriage. The FIRST step you need to take is to watch this FREE video on how to get your ex back. The information in this video can literally change your life. It has for more than 50,000 couples already. Aren’t you ready to see what it can do for you?

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Healing after a breakup isn’t nearly as hopeless as you’ve been led to believe it is.. The truth is that healing is something that happens a little at a time with every hour that passes after your breakup happens. It may not feel like it – especially when you’re struggling to breathe beneath the weight of the pain you’re feeling, but you really are on your way. Here are a few things you can do though that will help you hurry the process along a little bit.Breakup Reversed

Take a Break from the Life You Shared Together

Part of the problem in the first few days after a breakup is the fact that you’re constantly confronted with painful reminders of your relationship and the fact that it is over. These reminders can come in the form of favorite places to eat, photographs, mementos of your time together, and even gifts you were given by your ex.

But they can also come in the form of sheets you picked out together, pillows you had pillow fights with, or favorite DVDs you liked to watch together. When you’re not expecting them and are suddenly flooded with the memories it can literally take your breath away.

So now is the perfect time to take a few days off from work and head out of town for a while. Go somewhere neutral – somewhere you never went together or even talked about going together. Just get away from him and the memories of him that seem to attack you at every turn.

You can’t run away from him or the reality of your breakup forever, but you can go to neutral territory in order to start dealing with it on your own terms rather than being stabbed in the heart with the fact that your ex is gone at every turn.

Make a Plan for the Future

Not everyone who has been dumped is ready to call it quits. Some are willing to fight to save the relationship they believe is well worth saving. They go about it in difference ways. Some of them are more effective than others.

Use the time while you’re out of town wisely in order to come up with an effective strategy for getting your ex back. Just be careful that you don’t do anything to set that plan in motion just yet.

Because you need to take a few minutes to watch this FREE video on how to get your ex back to make sure you’re not unknowingly sabotaging your odds of success. This video will give you simple to follow instructions that will put you on the right path to get your ex back for good. It’s worked for 50,000 other couples already. Chances are good that it can help you too!

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Has technology started to take over your life?? People are spending more and more time online, video gaming, and text messaging every day. From iPods to iPads and gaming consoles in between it’s no wonder that we’re feeling more and more disconnected from the world around us and more like islands unto ourselves.

There was a television commercial not too long ago that discussed how we, as a society, are becoming more and more involved in our mobile phones, and less engaged in what is going on around us. One scene in the commercial had a woman standing by the bed in lingerie trying to get her husband’s attention away from the phone. When that didn’t work, a well placed pillow did the trick. The catch phrase was ‘Really?’

Unfortunately, there are some major grains of truth throughout the commercial. Human interactions are going mobile and marriages, like many other ‘in person’ relationships, are paying a price for this deeper involvement in technology.

So, what can you do to prevent this scenario from happening to you?

Declare Tech Free Times in Your Home

These are times when all technology in your home gets turned off. You can work on your marriage and having real conversations, not to mention adult interaction during this time that would have otherwise been spent watching television, playing video games, surfing the ‘net, or texting with friends.

Text free time is a good idea for the entire family if you have children as well. This will be time you can all get back to the basics and enjoy a few board games or something. Whether you do one night a week or a certain amount of time every night, tech free living can really help you become more ‘connected’ than you have been in a very long time.

Just make sure that some of the tech free time is between you and your spouse. The goal, after all, is to save your marriage by reducing the invasion of technology into it.

Make Tech Work in Your Favor

‘If the Mountain won’t come to Muhammad then Muhammad must go to the mountain.’ Sometimes, you have to find clever methods for affecting the changes you desire.

If technology is presenting a roadblock, find a way to make the detour more entertaining for the sake of your marriage or relationship. Use technology to get the attention of your significant other in a way that’s really going to matter. Send your own message. Get involved in the game. Beat him (or her) at his own game.

Don’t keep fighting it. Just find a way to make it work for you.

That’s what marriage is after all, finding a way to make the relationship work for both of you. If you’ve had trouble in the past or are continuing to have trouble now there is help available. Visit this link: http://magicofmakingup.com/ to discover what you can do right now to turn your marriage back around and get it on the right track.

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Your heart takes a bit of a pounding when you’ve been dumped but that isn’t the only thing that’s going to need a little looking after before all is said and done.. Your self-confidence took a huge hit too and it’s going to take a little more than a few day’s worth of time to get that back.

Most people are hesitant to admit just how much damage has been done to their sense of self worth or value after being dumped by a person who loved them a great deal at some point in time. Unfortunately, for many people, it’s the self-confidence that takes the longest to ‘bounce back’ after an unexpected or unwanted breakup.

However, there are things you can do that will help you regain your lost confidence one step at a time. Starting the path back to a stronger you and a stronger opinion of yourself is perhaps the most important part of the healing process after a breakup. Here are a few steps you might need to take.

Start by Looking in the Mirror

Cosmetic changes are only skin deep but they are the changes that are often the easiest to see. You can start by making a few changes in appearance. See a hair stylist for a new ‘do’ and ask for advice on which style will bring out your best features. Find a new sense of style in your wardrobe while you’re at it and consider teeth whitening for fast changes you can see in the mirror.

If you’re self-confident about things that might take a longer time to correct now is the perfect time to take the important first steps in that process. Whether it’s shedding a few pounds, building a few muscles, or even something major like rhinoplasty or serious cosmetic dental work you can begin the process today. Sometimes, just getting started will give your confidence a much needed boost.

Concentrate on Changes YOU Want to Make

Deeper changes are great at times like these. There’s just one important thing to keep in mind. This is all about making YOU feel better about yourself. Don’t make changes you think someone else needs you to make. Don’t make changes because you think they’ll impress someone else. Now is the time to become the person YOU want to be.

Some great changes to consider include: volunteering, education, self-help, travel, learning new skills, exploring new interests, reconnecting with old hobbies, taking up new hobbies, and getting your financial house in order. All of these things can help you feel better about yourself and make your confidence soar.

There’s one more thing you can do that will give your self-confidence a huge boost or eliminate your need for the confidence boost altogether. You can spend your time wisely learning how to get your ex back. If you follow this link you’ll discover a video that will point you in the same direction that more than 50,000 other couples have gone to get help getting back together in the past. See what it can do for you.

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